Love Your Neighbor—Unless They’re Gay?

 It will never make sense to me that “no Christian would ever facilitate homosexuality” is the hill so many self-proclaimed Christians are willing to die on—while completely ignoring the countless other things their religion is supposedly opposed to.

So many are hyper-focused on the “sins” they believe they aren’t committing, that they don’t even know what all is considered sin anymore.

We have Christians who openly acknowledge that the Bible has been translated, edited, and shaped by men in power—things removed, things added—to assert control and keep people living in fear and guilt. And yet those same people will still scream that being gay is the ultimate sin.

So ultimate, in fact, that they feel justified in shaming, humiliating, ostracizing, belittling—and sometimes even harming—gay people, all in the name of God.

They’re Christians… right up until a gay person enters the room.

Then suddenly, only certain lives that God created are acceptable.

And definitely not “the gays”.

They genuinely believe you cannot be gay and love God. 🙄 And I’m so sick of hearing this. 

They believe it is more offensive to be gay than it is to be a “man of God” who harms children.

They believe it’s acceptable to behave in ways that would have made Jesus furious—as long as that behavior is aimed at gay people or anyone that’s different than them really.

Jesus was angriest with religious leaders who used God to control people.

With those who pushed shame onto others.

With those who loved rules more than humans. (Policy zombies—sound familiar? We’re living in a time riddled with them.)

If something truly came from God, it wouldn’t need cruelty to defend it. Please just sit with that thought for a moment and let it marinate. 

Because truth doesn’t require humiliation.

And faith doesn’t require fear, y’all.

If the fruits of the Spirit disappear the moment a gay person walks into the room, then whatever’s being practiced there isn’t truly of God.

Again, it’s power. It’s fear. It’s hypocrisy.

And no matter how loudly it’s preached, it will never reflect the Jesus they claim to follow.

This is exactly why I generally don’t call myself a “Christian.”

I am a Christ follower.

Following Christ means taking his words seriously—not holding later interpretations above the actual teachings of Jesus, and not weaponizing scripture in ways that contradict the love that he embodied.

Man has tainted the word Christian since its inception, using it less as a reflection of Christ and more as a tool for power and control over people and that’s evident everywhere.

As far as I know, Jesus never once even spoke about homosexuality. Not about men loving men. Not about women loving women. Not once. And if it were truly as big a deal as modern-day Christians go out of their way to make it, don’t you think he would have spoken about it clearly—and often?

The condemnation of homosexuality is not repeated in the commandments. And if it were truly the ultimate sin—the one so many Christians seem obsessed with—don’t you think it would’ve made the list?

An eleventh commandment, maybe?

Or at least been mentioned repeatedly, clearly, and without room for question or misinterpretation?

Instead, what we have are a handful of disputed passages—written, translated, and retranslated by men in power—many of which scholars argue were never about consensual same-sex relationships at all.

Many scholars believe these passages originally referred to exploitative relationships: adult men with boys, temple prostitution, and sexual abuse.

So, ped0philia.

The very kind of abuse Christianity has historically protected, excused, minimized, and covered up for centuries.

And yet somehow, being gay became the focus instead. Ask yourself why that would be. Maybe because there was so much of the other going on, that they wanted to reframe it in a way that took the spotlight off of them? 🤔 (Well…isn’t that special?)

And so, being gay is now treated as the greater offense. Their plan worked and it stuck. 

Jesus spoke endlessly about love.

About hypocrisy.

About religious leaders who burdened others with shame while refusing to look into their own hearts.

About mercy.

About humility.

About caring for those pushed to the side.

He never spoke about homosexuality.

And God didn’t say, “Love your neighbor—unless they’re gay.”

He didn’t say to make fun of them.

He didn’t say to exclude them.

He didn’t say to judge them or make them feel inferior, unwanted, or unsafe.

He didn’t tell us to be disgusted by them or offended by their love—by something as simple and human as holding hands in public or kissing the person they love.

None of that came from God.

That came from people. And it continues to come from people. 

And when cruelty is taught as righteousness, we should be brave enough to call it what it is.

Because love—real love—never looks like exclusion, y’all… or angry Christians showing up with torches and pitchforks, convinced cruelty makes them somehow better in God’s eyes. 🤦🏻‍♀️