You Don’t Deserve Her Silence

 

Let’s talk about what just happened to Lauren Fryer—the long-term partner of footballer Declan Rice and the mother of his child.


Let’s talk about why she deleted every post on her Instagram.

Let’s talk about why she disappeared from the public eye.


And let’s not sugarcoat it.


It’s because a bunch of miserable, ignorant, small-minded people couldn’t stand to see a woman living her life without asking their permission.

Because she dared to exist in a body that didn’t fit their warped, filtered version of what a “WAG” is supposed to look like.


And let’s be real—

It’s because they hate themselves.

Because deep down, they are seething with envy that this beautiful, soft, radiant woman has a gorgeous man who adores her.

A man who chose her.

Who loves her.

Who sees her as more than just a body in a dress.


And they know—they know—they couldn’t get him.

Or anyone like him.

Because men like Declan Rice don’t fall for cruelty, bitterness, or vanity wrapped in insecurity.


So they lash out.

Like cowards.

Because tearing her down is the closest they’ll ever get to being seen.


Let me be clear: Lauren Fryer didn’t do anything wrong.

She didn’t hurt anyone.

She didn’t ask for your opinion.

She didn’t need your approval.


But you—those of you who typed out your vile little comments, who took time out of your empty day to shame a woman’s body, who mocked her, bullied her, ridiculed her just for being seen—you’re the problem.


You’re the reason so many women hate their reflection.

You’re the reason girls starve themselves and disappear inside the cage of “perfection.”

You’re the reason women shrink themselves—online and off.


And for what? Because someone’s waistline or jawline doesn’t match your obsession with celebrity aesthetics?

Because she had the audacity to stand beside a man you admire while looking like herself and not some airbrushed fantasy?


Let me tell you what’s truly disgusting—and it isn’t her.

It’s the people who think their phones give them a license to be cruel.

The ones who believe visibility makes someone fair game for abuse.

The cowards who hide behind fake usernames and faceless profiles to spit hate and then scroll away like nothing happened.


This isn’t just internet drama. This is bullying.

This is mental warfare dressed up as “just an opinion.”

This is how you push someone into silence.


And you don’t deserve that silence.


You don’t deserve her smile, her presence, her joy, her confidence, or her light.

You deserve to be called out—loudly.


Because anyone—celebrity or not—deserves to take up space in the body they live in.

And no one owes you thinness. No one owes you beauty by your standards.

No one owes you an explanation for how they look.


Lauren Fryer is beautiful. Full stop.

She’s a mother, a partner, a woman living in the real world.

And if that threatens you—if that enrages you—if that makes you feel so insecure you need to bully her into disappearing…


Then it’s not her you’re angry at.


It’s you.

And maybe it’s time you sat with that.

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